I'm ba-ack...

...And I'm coming to you from a brand new city.  

Moved from NYC to SF.  What a wild, condensed ride it's been.

I love NYC.  But after six years I felt the need to explore.  Find out if there was a better...maybe different fit...for me.

So in exactly 60 days I applied for a promotion, got an offer, accepted the job, packed my studio and plopped myself smack dab in San Francisco.  The funny thing about change - about closing chapters, saying "see you soon" and looking with excitement to the future - is that you can't control when it hits you.  When the emotions come.

I felt my first inkling at the airport in New York.  So, naturally, I purchased O Magazine.  Looking for that A-ha moment!

And the article "Growing Wings" couldn't have been more perfectly timed.

This is where I'm at now...Phase I - Dissolving.

When we're dissolving we may get hysterical (happened today, people!), fight our feelings, try to recapture our former lives, or jump immediately toward some new status quo. All these measures actually slow down Phase One and make it more painful. 

Instead they suggest...



Live one day (or 10 minutes) at a time. Instead of dwelling on hopes and fears about an unknowable future, focus your attention on whatever is happening right now.

If you think this sounds frustratingly passive, you're right. Dissolving isn't something you do; it's something that happens to you. The closest you'll come to controlling it is relaxing and trusting the process.

Now I'm accountable.  I have to trust the process.  Not stress about putting friends out, living out of a suitcase, wondering when it will all come together.  Because it will.  It totally will.